1. Elmarie van Zyl

    I so understand everything you say about your parents living in SA. What they go through every day is ” normal ” procedures for us too. Why must we just be grateful that we were not hurt when they hijacked us or robbed us or broke into our homes or held us at gunpoint or smashed your car windows at a red robot and grabbed whatever they can while everyone else is watching helpless as they are stuck in traffic and can’t get out. Why do we go through all if this , for this beautiful country if ours ? Yes we do say enough is enough but we’re in the minority and nothing is been done about it. And that is one of the reasons we are also leaving this beautiful country behind and joining the rest of our family on the gold coast ?

    • Dear Elmarie, thank you for your comment. All the best for your new journey and adventure. Do you know about my book, Die Eerste 1000 Dae van Migrasie that is free to download from my website? I think it may also help with your journey. Please download it, and let me know what you thought about it.
      Kind regards

  2. Melanie Kuschke

    This is so true… We recently (August2015) made the trip to the land of the long white cloud across the ditch from you and have come to realize that we were part of the abnormal being normal and went through the same experiences of “wow look how clean everything is, government departments service actually delivers and public transport is a blessing”.

    Family and friends ask if we are settling in and how is it! How do you explain that their everyday life and our previous one is abnormal? You can’t until they experience what you have experienced and come to that realization themselves.

    Thank you for sharing this as you put onto paper the words and feelings my husband and I have come to realize and experience.

  3. Coray Johnson

    Hi Marlize,
    Hope you well, don’t know whether you will still remember me??
    Coffee at Gloria’ Welcome to Perth.
    We had to moved back to NZ due to family matters but returning February.

    Some Saffas here just loves your blog and ask me to add you to some groups.
    They just love it.
    Need permission from you first.

    • Hello Coray,

      I have not attended a Welcome to Perth at Gloria Jeans yet, must be another Marlize Venter? I think there is a namesake here;)

      You are welcome to add me, let me know and I will post my blogs are they are ready.

      Thank you so much for reaching our to me and letting me know, I really appreciate it, and let’s do a coffee date in February or March when you arrive back.

      All the best,

  4. Linette Lintvelt

    Magnificently said, from the heart and utterly true for us South Africans here. Thank you for your prayers. Thank you for writing how things are here and there. It is spot on. God continue to bless you and your family. Enjoy the hope and freedom you have.

  5. Deirdre

    Thank you for this beautiful article. It breaks my heart that so many of my treasured friends and family are still living in that abnormality. And for most, leaving is not even a thought. They are happy and therefore tolerate the crime, fear, etc. I myself didn’t comprehend how bad it really is until I was living here and thought “oh so this is what normal feels and looks like”.

    • Dear Deirdre,

      My mum will never lift her roots and move, and I respect that. I always say that things are different in Australia, not always better. I do prefer the ‘different’ here though. South Africa, and the people of South Africa are beautiful people, and I love them, and miss them. And so I will keep on praying, because they need my positive words so much more than my pessimism.

  6. Dianne

    Dear Marlize,

    Well written and well said. Your comments are ‘spot on’. My mother, sister and niece all arrived here in Dec for my daughter’s wedding. I left Pretoria in 2006 and have not returned to South Africa. I listened to all the stories about the erosion of basic services and infrastructure, the crime, the corruption in government etc. There are constant problems with water supplies and electricity (just another day in Africa). I decided after they left on 31st Dec that I will never return, not even for a holiday. However, they know where I am if they want to visit. I have suggested that I am prepared to travel to the Seychelles and will meet them there for a family holiday. I will rent a villa, pay for their flights from Durban and JHB to the Seychelles so that we can have a peaceful family time together. However, I will not set foot back in South Africa. Its just too dangerous these days. The Western Cape is a better option for people going back for a visit but Gauteng and Kwazulu Natal is not a good idea. I arrived here with my 2 younger adult kids (my eldest son lives in London). My husband who is Australian (but lived in South Africa from 1978) had gone ahead in 2005 to establish a home base for us in Adelaide. He arrived about 18 months earlier than us so we were basically separated for that length of time. He first had to find a job (difficult when you’re over the age of 50) but after 4 months of searching, he finally found one. He had to get a rental house set up. He had to buy furniture, appliances etc with me sending him guidance on websites as to what was required. I think that he spent most weekends running up and down the isles of places like IKEA and Classic Timbers Furniture than actually resting after a long week at work. He did this because he wanted us to have a complete home when we arrived (he’s my hero). Anyway, in 2007, we bought a home in the Adelaide Hills and are happy and settled here. My son moved to Melbourne and my daughter lives in Adelaide at Westlakes with her husband. All 3 kids have Australian citizenship and I am grateful for that. I do miss things like the Kruger Park and Cape Town, and friends in Pretoria etc. I have worked since I arrived here and have integrated so much into the Australian way of life that I feel more Australian than South African. Its weird because when my family was here, I felt that sense of being different in some way. My mindset has changed, my accent has changed and I have become a calmer and more rational person. The thought of confrontational aggression horrifies me and I find that I basically avoid argumentative and pushy people. This was not the case in South Africa. Back there, I was quite feisty but over here, I prefer to avoid that type of thing. Just the freedom to walk the dogs in peace or to sit on a beach without watching my back is huge for me. No…I could never return to that land of aggression and violence and uncertainty. Thanks for your blog.

    • Hello Dianne,

      thank you so much for your post:) I understand what you are saying on so many levels – especially feeling more Aussie than South African some days.

  7. Chris Wheatley

    Thanks for a BEAUTIFULLY and well thought out message.
    I think we can all identify with others who have loved ones back in South Africa , our former homeland.
    Thanks also go to others who replied to your script.
    God bless.

    • Thanks dear Chris, I am always a bit apprehensive when I post these things, as I do not want to appear as ‘bashing’ our home country. I do believe that there are many wonderful things happening there as well.

      Love to Liz:)

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