Everyone who keeps on doing the same thing and expects different results have a little bit of crazy in them.
We’ve crossed the line to being well and truly middle-aged a few years back and we keep asking ourselves, “Is this it? Is this all there is?”
We want to tour this vast country, we want to work fewer hours and spend more time without families, and we want to dream more. For some or other reason it stops at talking.
While in Australia, I have been able to reinvent myself a few times.
I came to this country as a stay at home mum who homeschools her children. Since 2008 I have stayed a stay at home mum who homeschools her children, have become a business owner who did 3d ultrasounds, sold the business when we moved towns, became a published author, became a content writer, did a bit of social media management and most recently a real estate photographer.
My motto? If you can read you can excel!
What do you need to remember when you come to Australia and you are thinking of re-inventing yourself?
What will I regret not having done?
Call it a bucket list or whatever you want to call it. Look at your strengths, weaknesses and passions. What are your goals? Does it resonate with you?
Remember that failure is never truly a failure if you have gained experience from it. you may not see the purpose in this apparent failure at the moment, but somewhere in the future, you may just have to use it.
Reinventing yourself is like immigration.
We often underestimate the toll that it will take on us. Don’t just dream it, practise it. Do your homework. I cannot stress the homework part strongly enough!
Who do you want to be in your future?
Call it. When I used to train very hard my PT asked me what I see when I look in the mirror. I responded that I see a stronger than average 40-year-old woman. (I enjoy weightlifting.)
He said, “I see you as an athlete.”
That flipped a switch for me. Suddenly I thought of myself as an athlete and I made my food choices accordingly.
Identify your future self and make your decisions accordingly.
Schedule your changes
Rome took a time to build. Reinvention does not happen overnight. Rome was built by people. Likewise, involve people in your journey who will support you.
Track your accomplishments
Keep track of your successes. You will need to remind yourself of it when the days are bad and hard yakka.
Keep reminding yourself of your goals.
Deal with your obstacles
Important: Deal with obstacles and get over it. If it is people who put the obstacles there, deal with it and move on. Don’t harbour hard feelings.
I love this quote from Karate Kid, Part II
Daniel: You could’ve killed him, couldn’t you?
Mr. Miyagi: Hai.
Daniel: Well, why didn’t you then?
Mr. Miyagi: Because, Daniel-san, for person with no forgiveness in heart, living even worse punishment than death.”
If you find that your dreams have changed, admit it. There is no shame in saying, “I have changed, and this is not as important to me anymore.”
At the beginning of my studies, I had this extravagant dream of being a high powered attorney. After my first law degree, I decided to pursue my love of Latin and did an honours degree. During this time I reconsidered my initial love of law, and though I initially pursued a career in it, I never really fell in love with it. It has however opened door to new journeys that I would never have had. Which reiterates that obstacles and experience are often doorways to new avenues.
Dear Migrant to the Great South Land,
Most of you decided to move to Australia because of the opportunities that you see for their children.
I want to encourage you – these opportunities are there for you as well.
You are not too old to learn new things. You just have to believe that you can and know what you want.
Hard work is the least of our obstacles, we are used to it.
Looking forward to meeting you soon.